"I was riding a public utility bus. All seats were occupied, when a group of commuters entered the bus. Most of them were girls. As the bus started to travel the road, the girls are standing, holding tight among the bars. Thus, I stood up, offering my seat to one of them. The girl happily accepted. I was hoping that the guys sitting would do the same
..but none followed, it frustrated me"
Is it really that hard to be a gentleman in the 21st century, that a mere survival of such a knight is slim? Let me define a gentleman, well a gentleman is gentle + man (what? Can't think of any definition right now heh)
..Gentle means that he is proper, conservative, ethical, morale, and simply a nice guy altogether. As the age of romanticism grew, and the rights of women became equal to men, the guys in general, saw the girls as a subject of beauty, of a fragile vase, shining under the sun. Chivalry on that moment is the code of conduct of knights. With Chivalry, they are to protect the weak. Over time, the definition of chivalry transformed into a manner of men to act with honor and to offer his help for the welfare of others in need. Most of the time, Chivalry is practiced when men interacts with women. Certain rules apply to show the girl a princess-like treatment. To offer one's hand to assist a female, to prepare the chair the girl is to sit on, even to lay one's clothing on a puddle of water in order for the girl to cross with dry feet. For me, it is a beautiful and just act all men should practice
.but of course, you can't always have what you want.
Beside from having neat appearance, gentlemen are also conscious about the words they are to speak, avoiding any offensive words that could hurt anyone. As much as possible, they talk less, for abuse of words is not a way of a real man. OK, that's what being a gentleman is all about, so what happened to this people? What predator from hell ate these species and they seemed to have vanished in the modern age?
I shall now begin my points. I don't know if I'm just living in a community of retarded men or is this worldwide phenomenon. I never though men can go so low today, I pity them. I am a self-proclaimed gentleman, and heck it is hard to be so when there are prying eyes from those who thinks I'm weird. I am trying my best to change the perception of women when it comes to men. It is a common misconception that men are all perverts and men sees women as an object of lust. Jeez..some guys I see on the streets just hook up with any girl he sees. Women are all wary of men, they think that we are that mischievous and out of control, to the point of thinking naughty stuffs in the presence of a girl, and that we only have a mind set to doing something bad. When this idea did come to play? What would discourage them to be chivalrous?
As I stated some facts above, you can say that gentlemen are soft. That's one general concept most see as unmanly. Think about it, history portrays men as fighters, those who wage war, and those who brawl, barbaric in some sense, but it is that toughness that defines men from little boys. For a guy to appear in front of a woman, having manners as if an aristocrat, sounds awkward. Because of this, many thought of gentlemen as GAYS. Yes, sadly
men who practice chivalry are labeled gays. A man having control over you his actions and not being rude is considered NOT MACHO
..Macho guys seems to be always looking for a fight, while a gentleman settles it with diplomacy, such difference gave many that misconception. A man should be uncalculating, care-free and lazy, so anyone who would think before he speaks isn't a man.
Another point here is the influence of girls. I don't know but even though girls like to be treated like a princess, they don't want a gentleman in front of them, they prefer the flirty guy. I'm not saying that all girls are like that, I'm just stating what I have observed around me. A gentleman will always be seen as another boring guy who wouldn't throw a green joke or two. Since gentlemen limits their actions to only those pleasant, some think that they are hypocrites, that they are frauds who expects something in return for their actions. Many believe that gentlemen wear a mask to hide their lewd nature and anything they do is just a show to impress. Girls don't prefer this kind of guys since they feel that gentlemen are weak and not fun to be with.
Gentlemen die in a society of corrupted morality. We try to act proper while uplifting the values this society is lacking, but all for naught. In an age where romantic relationships is a trend, a vogue instead of something that can be felt, a game instead of something serious, a gentleman who wouldn't flirt will be left behind. To tell you guys the truth, I am furious with talkative men. I can't believe a guy could make so much noise in one day, every day
.but then this works with girls, so they would cast away the silent, sensible type. Vulgarity is the norm today, and no clean mind is safe from irresponsible mouths. As a gentleman gives effort in keeping his honor and dignity, people around him are doing embarrassing things, to the point of being stupid, yet since there is life from idiocy, party people would just flock around the animal. Decency is the core of the gentleman, while others don't value it and would go for something as primitive as being naked.
OK, I would say there are many types of people, and some are just extroverts. Some prefer the out-going guy and some don't like gentlemen, but we can't forget the fact that boys will be boys in some aspects. Still, let me ask you this, can you imagine a society stripped of gentlemen?
Listening to: My noisy office mates'
Watching: Basketball...Miami vs. Celtics....